Several years ago, I am sitting across from this belligerent foot doctor and he is staring at my X-rays. He looks at me and starts railing away about all this shit I shouldn’t be doing.
“It doesn’t look good. I am surprised you don’t have more problems. Is there something else wrong that caused the muscle wasting?”
The dude keeps going. I am only there for a followup because of a sprained ankle. He is the closest foot doc to where I live and I am fairly new to the area. I am looking at him and thinking “who the F is this dude.” As he kept on railing away with his negative statements about my present state and worst yet, my future, I started feeling more pain in my body. I started feeling kind of defeated. I started to believe what this doc was professing.
I left that appointment feeling terrible. I actually slowed down doing the things I normally do and started taking things easier. I was bummed out. This lasted for some time. Actually, this feeling, lasted for a lot longer than I care to admit. Anyways, at some point, the switch went off and I stopped listening to the experts like this doctor. Tuning out the experts is something not radically new to me. I did it well for the majority of my life. If I didn’t tune out the experts as a kid then I wouldn’t have played sports. I wouldn’t have ran the fastest in my age group for a period of time. I would have given up when the pain got to be too much, because I would have bought into the doom these experts preached. The message most doctors preached to me about my future sucked. Look people, the fact is, experts often make mistakes and also often make guesses based on the knowledge available to them. So what if you’re a bit unique?
Often, when we go through the tough stuff, we’re going through a unique experience different than what our peers or experts fully understand. I mean, think of amputees, specifically, how many amputation experiences are the exact same? Amputations often have unique scenarios with many variables. Predicting outcomes, especially the time to heal and the proper prosthetic(s) is very different for each person. Same with my story. The shit I deal with is rare enough. Looking at xrays of my bone structure will often throw a doc off because they’re not used to seeing something this different than the norm. Once outside of the doc’s usual universe then the patient may start to receive some wild guesses and if they’re unlucky, they may end up with a belligerent doc that provides a bunch of limiting negative input…and you might believe them…and then you might limit yourself…and then unfortunately, you might stunt your ability to adapt and thrive.
So the moral of the story is to hate all doctors…kidding. Rather, the moral of the story is to trust yourself, don’t listen to an authoritative figure in your life if you feel their advice is limiting your potential. Get your stuff together, if today is rough then focus on building a better tomorrow, and reach out because we’re in this thing together.
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